Real Marriage: The Porn Path

Chapter 8 of Real Marriage deals with the issue of pornography. I’m not going to write a whole lot concerning this topic because I did a four part series about pornography not too long ago so I feel like I would just be repeating myself. To read those posts, click on the following links:

Pornography & the Family

Pornography & Marriage

Porn & Parenting: 6 Ways to Protect your Child

Pornography Follow Up

I will sum up and highlight some of what the Driscolls had to say on this topic.

Most experts agree there are four basic aspects to virtually all heterosexual pornography, which constitutes the majority of porn:

1. The message is consistent that all women want sex from all men all the time in all kinds of bizarre ways and are essentially nymphomaniacs.

2. Women really enjoy whatever any man does to them sexually.

3. And woman who does not meet the stereotype of points 1 and 2 can quickly be changed through a bit of force or intimidation.

4. The woman is dominated and degraded by the man in a way that exploits her as essentially a tool for the pleasure of the man and not really a person, but rather, parts.

Pornography rewires the brain. It creates a fantasy world in which these four points are the “norm.” When this happens, reality is no longer satisfying. Real men and women aren’t attractive because our brains have been rewired to desire a porn star. We no longer crave intimacy but simply lust after more and harder porn. It is destructive to our marriages and to our souls.

Unfortunately, many many people, more and more being women, struggle with a porn addiction. It is a very real problem in many, if not most, marriages. It needs to be fought. Repentance and redemption need to be sought.

The Driscolls offer “some practical advice for those wanting to be free of porn and sinful lust, as well as those spouses who love them.”

1. You must be honest with yourself.

2. You must be honest with God.

3. You must be honest with your spouse.

4. You must put your sexual sin to death by the grace of God.

5. You must submit to God the Holy Spirit.

This is the only way to be free. Repent, confess, put your sin to death, and cling to the Holy Spirit to help you run away from temptation.

Our marriages are worth it.

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The Danger of Sexual Refusal

freeimage-1350986This week I’ve been discussing sex and we’ve looked at how women view sex and how men view sex and we’ve seen that our views are very different. Men typically have a higher sex drive than women and typically care more about having sex. This isn’t true for every male but for the majority this is the case. And women typically care more about the emotional aspect of a relationship. We’ve seen that this is how God created us to be and neither desire, emotional or physical, is better or more valuable than the other. They are both important and both are needed to have a healthy and balanced marriage.

A problem arises when one aspect of a marriage isn’t being fulfilled. There is a problem when a wife isn’t fulfilling (within reason) her husband’s sexual needs. And there’s a problem when we women go to spicy romance novels (otherwise known as “mommy porn”) to fulfill our sexual needs instead of going to our husbands. There’s a problem when we make excuses at night for why we can’t make love. There’s a problem when we let things like the kids, household chores, and errands so sap up our energy that we can’t devote even just a little bit of time to our husbands. And there’s a problem when we refuse to experience a God-given gift with our God-given spouse whom we vowed to love.

I don’t know what your particular issue may be when it comes to sex and I can’t speak to every possible scenerio but when it comes to sexual refusal, when you aren’t having sex with your husband on a regular basis, then you are giving Satan a foothold in your marriage. You are inviting disconnection, discontentment, selfishness, immorality, and temptation into your marriage. The worst of all is that you are disobeying God’s Word which commands us to not deprive each other. 1 Corinthians 7:3-5 says, “The husband should give to his wife her conjugal rights, and likewise the wife to her husband. For the wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. Likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. Do not deprive one another, except perhaps by agreement for a limited time, that you may devote yourselves to prayer; but then come together again, so that Satan may not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.” This verse shouldn’t be used for manipulation but should rather convict you to keep your sex life alive and make that part of your marriage a priority. I do not want to make you feel that you are entirely at fault and I don’t want to burden you by giving off the tone of “You’re not adding up! You’re not doing enough! You need to be better!” We women get that message enough. What I do want is to spur all of us to live a biblical life, even in our love lives, and to fulfill our vows and role as a biblical spouse. And I want us to experience sex as God designed it and meant for it to function in our marriages.

Sex isn’t all about your husband either. It’s about both of you. I don’t want you to think that I’m saying you should just be a good little wife and submit to your husband’s desires because he needs it and God wants you to. I’m saying make sex a priority because it’s important in your marriage for both of you. If you embrace the physical, emotional, and intimate aspects of sex then both of you will benefit. You will both feel good, both of your physical and emotional needs will be met, and your covenantal bond will be stronger. You’ll be closer outside of the bedroom and the ability to effectively communicate and tackle life’s issues together will, in a way, be easier because you have a foundation of intimacy. You will be one. But if you refuse sex, if you aren’t having consistent sex that you put effort into, then you and your husband are both suffering. Your marriage is suffering because you can’t be one emotionally and spiritually if you aren’t being one physically due to refusal.

Sexual refusal is sinful and harmful. It hurts your marriage in that you aren’t experiencing true oneness with your spouse and you aren’t fulfilling your God-given and God-defined role as a wife. It hurts your husband because his physical and emotional needs aren’t being met. And it opens up the doors for temptation and lack of self-control. Protect and better your marriage by creating and maintaining an active and exciting sex life with your husband. It really does matter and it really is important. Your marriage, and your husband, are worth it.

Sex & The Man

freeimage-5871127It’s no secret that men are typically more sexually focused than women. Sex is a huge part of a man’s life and identity as a male. Sex makes men feel like men. It gives them confidence and affirmation in their manhood. In general, it makes them feel good. Men are also visual which only enhances and encourages their sexual focus. When a man sees a pretty woman he doesn’t start thinking, “I wonder what kind of personality she has?” He’s thinking about her body. When a woman sees a handsome man she isn’t thinking, “Dang, he’s hot! I want to see him naked!” Most likely she’s thinking, “Oh, he’s attractive. I want to get to know him better.” No wonder we view sex differently!

Women are highly relational so we value building the emotional connection of a relationship. Men are highly physical so they value sex. And it all goes back to how those things make us feel. An emotional connection makes us women feel close and intimate. We want to know our husbands deeply. We want to talk with them, share with them, and experience life with them. When that emotional connection is strong we feel that our relationship is strong and our need for security is met. For a man, sex makes him feel close and intimate. It feeds his desire to be wanted. When a woman gives herself to him, his manhood is affirmed and it tells him that he’s desirable. While single men can use sex for their own gain (just as single women can too), when it comes to a marriage sex is one of the biggest ways that men feel loved. The reason my husband got so irritated with me for not having sex with him is not because he was shallow and only wanted a physical release. He was hurt because I was making him feel undesirable, unwanted, and unloved. I would have felt the same way if he had gone weeks without talking to me or spending time with me.

For some reason women tend to think that having a conversation is above having sex. That somehow talking with one another is more intimate and sex is shallow. But I think what we need to understand is that God created sex and He created our sex drives. He made our men to desire sex and to pursue sexual intimacy with us (in the marital context). It’s not that our form of bonding (emotional connection through conversation) is better, it’s just that it’s different. Communication in marriage is of great importance and I think that’s why God gave us women the greater desire to communicate. But sex is important too and He gave that greater desire to our husbands. We each have specific needs but one need isn’t necessarily better than the other. In marriage, communication and sex are both important and if we each gave more of ourselves to our spouse’s desire we would have healthier and holier marriages.

So if we know that God created sex and He reserved it specifically for marriage where it would function as a way to procreate and to share a deep physical, emotional, and intimate bond that only a husband and wife could share; and if we know that having sex with our husbands makes them feel desirable and loved, then we should put more effort into our sex life. Embrace your husband’s sex drive and appreciate his desire for you. Honor him by desiring him back. Discover the sex life that God has created you both to have with each other. It will grow your marriage stronger and your bond sweeter.

Sex & The Woman

freeimage-5871124Okay, ladies. This is about to get real.

We’re talking about sex this week and I think it is a really important topic to discuss. Sex is very important in marriage and it is often one of the biggest issues. However, I’ve had some trouble writing a post about women and their view of sex. I have one finished and ready to go but I’m not very pleased with it. I think I’m having trouble because I’m trying to be very careful about what I say, how I say it, and how much I reveal about myself and my marriage. But you know what? To hell with that. I’m not going to beat around the bush.

When I was single I didn’t realize how big of a deal sex was in marriage. I mean, it was one of those things I wasn’t suppose to do and so I wanted to do it because my body said, “yes!” and my heart said, “I want to be loved!” Sex was mysterious and something my body naturally wanted to experience. It was intimate and I wanted to experience intimacy. I knew it was something reserved for marriage because God, my mom, and my youth pastors said so. But I had no idea that sex is vital to a healthy marriage. I thought it was just a bonus, even a reward, for getting married. I figured married couples did it because it was something we all wanted to do and they got to do it all the time! How sex functions and affects a marriage was lost on me, as it is with most single people.

When I got married my view of sex was “We get to do this now with no guilt!” It was great. It was still new and fun. But it didn’t take long for the newness of it to wear off and at some point early on I became uninterested. It’s not that I stopped liking it and it had nothing to do with my husband. I just got busy doing other things and didn’t really think about it. I had the frame of mind that sex was something I did when I felt like it and didn’t really take into consideration my husband’s feelings. In fact, my husband wanting to have sex was shallow. There were better things we could do together. We could spend time together. We could talk. I wanted to feel close to him but I didn’t want our marriage to be all about sex. That seemed shallow.

After a few weeks of no sex, my husband became very agitated. I didn’t know what was wrong until he finally said, “We haven’t had sex in weeks” as he walked out the door. I thought that was dumb but I didn’t want my husband to be upset so I tried harder. As time went on I started to see a pattern. When days would go by without having sex, the relationship between me and my husband would start to suffer. We wouldn’t feel as close, we wouldn’t be as selfless, we wouldn’t communicate as well, and we would be more likely to have an argument. When we had sex on a consistent basis we felt more emotionally connected and our relationship was overall more intimate and strong. And that’s when I learned that sex was more powerful and more important than I thought.

Maybe you have a different story. Maybe you’ve never liked sex or maybe it doesn’t feel good to you. Maybe it’s more of a chore than a pleasure. Maybe you’d like to have sex more often but you’re busy and tired. Maybe you think sex is more for your husband than it is for you. Maybe you have sexual baggage from your past. Whatever the case, whatever influences us to hold a certain view of sex, the overarching issue is that we don’t make sex a priority. We don’t see it as one of the most important areas of our marriage. We’re women and we value friendship, communication, and emotional connection. God made us that way and that is great! Those things are important in marriage as well. But God also created sex and He reserved it for marriage. There is a reason for that. If we view sex as a chore, as shallow, and as the last thing we want to do at the end of the day, then we’re missing out on something God created for us to experience with our husband. We’re missing out on showing our husbands that we love them. We’re missing out on connecting with our husbands in the most vulnerable and intimate way. It may require more work for us women to get in the mood and figure out how to make sex feel good for us. It may require more thought and concentration. It may require overcoming negative views of sex but it’s worth the effort.

So this week I challenge you to evaluate your view of sex and the level of importance you make it in your marriage. For some of you there may be some real issues that need to be worked out but for others it may just be that you need to learn what God created sex for (other than procreation) and how it is to function in your marriage. So do some thinking this week and come back tomorrow to find out how men view sex and then Thursday to see how dangerous sexual refusal can be. My hope is that by the end of the week you’ll have a better (and more biblical) understanding of the importance of sex in your marriage.

The “S” Word

Let’s talk about sex.

It’s rare to find anything about sex that is written from a Christian point of view. In fact, sex is often seen as a “bad” word and is usually an avoided topic amongst Christians. It’s hard to find something that is open and honest about sex without being trashy. Because of this, so many people enter a sexual relationship (married or otherwise) completely unprepared for all that it entails.

We all grow up having learned about sex through some means. Some of us might have had parents who had “the talk” with us and some might have learned through friends, sex education class, media, experience, or all of the above. My mom had “the talk” with me but it was vague and centered on a classroom mouse. I learned far more about sex through friends and media than I did from “the talk.” I distinctly remember my mom telling me that if I had any questions about sex that I was to ask her, not my friends, but I didn’t know what questions to ask and even if I did, I didn’t feel comfortable bringing them up with my mom. And let’s face it, the first time I heard the term “blow job” wasn’t with my mom but was with my friends. So, no matter if our parents had “the talk” with us or not, we most likely learned about sex through friends, media, and experience. This isn’t a good thing because sex is strongly misrepresented to us, especially through media. Sex is made to look fun, easy, and nothing but a physical act that can be done with anyone, for any reason, at any time, and bearing no consequences. Sex has been cheapened and perverted. It has become a means for a man to get a physical release and a woman to get attention that she convinces herself is love. Sex has been so perverted from God’s good and amazing purpose for it.

This even happens in marriage. For women, sex can become a chore and can even be non-satisfying in every way. For men, sex can become just a means to an end. Sex is meant for marriage between a man and a woman. Within the context of marriage, sex can be very good. So why are there so many married couples who have very unsatisfying sex lives?

I actually wasn’t aware of how bad all of this was until I started reading Sheila Wray Gregoire ’s blog, To Love Honor and Vacuum. I wasn’t aware of how many couples struggle with having satisfying sex lives and I wasn’t aware of how badly this false representation of sex is hurting us. It has got me thinking and has really shaped my view of sex. It has ignited in me a desire to speak out against this false understanding of sex and to see other married couples experience a satisfying sex life.

This may sound strange but let me explain. I don’t just want other married couples to experience the physical pleasure that can come with having sex but rather understand, accept, and experience the full package. Sex is not just physical. It is also emotional and spiritual (intimate). It is a sacred act between husband and wife.

Since getting married, I have learned how vital sex is in a marriage. It isn’t just a “bonus” or an added pleasure. It is a vital component to having a good relationship with your spouse outside of the bedroom. The longer I’ve been married the more I find this to be true. This is true because sex isn’t just a shallow physical act. Within a marriage, sex provides not only physical pleasure, but an emotional and intimate bond that feeds our desire to be wanted, needed, and loved. Even for the man, his deepest desire is not a physical release but to know that he is wanted and loved.  

Side Note: Wives, if you are not having regular sex with your husband, not only is he suffering physically but emotionally and spiritually as well. He’s suffering spiritually because without you, he’s facing even greater temptation to find physical release through some other means. And he’s suffering emotionally because he is not feeling desired by you which in turn makes him feel unloved.

So we all have a desire to be loved and we can experience the fulfillment of this desire in the most intimate of ways. Sex can be fulfilling for both the man and the woman when all three aspects of sex (physical, emotional, and spiritual) come into play. This is the way God meant for sex to be. He meant for it to be a physical, emotional, and spiritual act between a husband and wife that satisfies their desire to be loved. He did not mean for it to be a shallow physical act. He did not mean for it to be pornographic and perverted. He meant for it to be a deeply intimate act shared between a husband and wife that strengthens their marriage and their relationship with Him.

This takes work. I think that is probably one of the most surprising things for a person to discover about sex. It takes work. It isn’t like those scenes in the movies where both partners passionately dive into bed, both knowing what they are doing, both being physically satisfied, both finding it easy, fun, and needing no commitment. Those scenes are lies. Sex takes work and in order for the work to be done there has to be a commitment. Every sexual encounter is not like those scenes in the movies. It isn’t always that easy or fun. It isn’t always satisfying. There is a lot more to it than the movies let on. Sex is not just passionate, it is vulnerable, highly vulnerable. That is a hard place to be for many of us. In order to be vulnerable, we have to let our guard down, we have to show ourselves. That can be scary. But when done within the context of a committed marriage, it is a beautiful, freeing experience.

I want to look at the other side for a moment. What is sex like when done outside of marriage? Well, physically it can be good but outside of marriage those other two aspects are either nonexistent or only vaguely present. The spiritual side of it, I would argue, would have to be nonexistent because God does not bless pre-marital sex. Even if sex is physically good outside of marriage, without those other two aspects, all it is is shallow, shameful, sinful, and full of hurt. If you have had sex outside of marriage you have not experienced it in the way it was meant to be, you have only cheapened it and have caused problems for yourself and your relationship with God. I know this because I had sex before I was married. As a result, I felt ashamed, guilty, and it hurt my relationship with Kyle, with God, and even my marriage. Pre-marital sex will effect your marriage and your marital sex life. Even if it has been a while, the baggage will venture into your marriage and wreck its havoc. I believe God had grace on me and my marriage because the consequences that were faced, even though they hurt, could have been a lot worse. He gave me the strength to deal with the shame and hurt of past mistakes and focus on building a healthy marriage. It is only by His grace that any of us can have satisfying marital sex lives. I believe that God wants us to have fulfilling marriages and He wants us to experience sex in the way He created it to be. It is an intimate and holy expression of committed love that was given to us by God Himself. It is meant to physically, emotionally, and spiritually blow our minds.

Pornography Follow Up

My husband found a video about porn addiction and after watching it I decided to write a follow up post. This video is from the scientific perspective only and I think that speaks volumes.

Pornography rewires your brain and the more you do it the more your spouse becomes unsatisfying and unattractive to you. The only thing that will satisfy you is more porn but that is only temporary and isn’t truly satisfying. As the video said, it’s like a drug. It functions as a drug within your brain and you start to crave porn instead of intimacy. So instead of desiring a close relationship where your intimacy lies deeper than sexual gratification (and where sex is a sacred act used to express love and a deep bond) you desire an erotic fantasy world that rewires your brain from its natural state into a state of addiction. And it has been shown that what porn finds acceptable influences our culture so that we find it acceptable. Once we as a society accept graphic and unnatural ways of having and exploring sex then what kind of society are we leaving for our children? They will grow up to believe that such sexual experience is “normal” and the level of acceptance will only grow.

That’s just the science of it but when we look beyond that to the God who created our brains and we look at this from His perspective we see an even deeper issue. Not only does pornography rewire our brains and promote sexual perversion but it dishonors God’s gift of sex and it doesn’t bring Him glory. It’s destructive. It destroys the healthy functioning of our brains, the future for our children, our marriages, our families, and our relationship with (and to) God. That is not a place that you, as a Christian man or woman, want to be. If we were created to worship and glorify God with our bodies and with our lives then sexual immorality must cease. We cannot stand up under it and we cannot pass it on to our children.

Even the video said that this can be helped but unfortunately that message was “just stop long enough and the addiction will go away.” We all know that “just stop” is harder than it sounds. I gave some steps in beginning the journey to healing here but for further help I suggest a Christian based addiction recovery program or counseling. Also, here’s a website to look into: http://www.x3pure.com

The most important first steps to take are repentance and confession. Repent to the Lord, confess to your spouse and then to a trusted pastor or friend. Tell someone who will help you find the counseling, program, or whatever it is that you need to get help. You don’t have to be stuck in this addiction. You don’t have to live with the guilt. There is hope for you.

Porn & Parenting: 6 Ways to Protect Your Child

*Today’s post is a guest post from Jessica at The Faith-Filled Home.  She has some great and practical suggestions for parents who want to do what they can to protect their children from pornography and other sexually explicit content. Happy reading!

Hello to all The Biblical Family readers! I am so happy to join Sarah in the topic that is all too often ignored in Christian circles. So let’s dive in!

How does pornography affect parenting? As a mom of boys, ages 3, 2 and one due March 2, this topic is on the forefront of my mind. The statistics are staggering. The following information is from citizenlink.com.

In the past decade, most research has focused on how the Internet has impacted youth exposure to pornography. According to a survey of more than 500 college students in 2006, 73 percent reported having seen pornography online prior to age 18, including 93 percent of boys. An article about this study in Cyberpsychology & Behavior reported that the mean age for first online exposure to pornography for boys is 14.3.

Exposure to Internet pornography among college-aged males

• 93.2% – before 18

• 4.2% – after 18

• 2.6% – never

If exposed before age 18, age at first exposure

• 8 – 0.6%

• 9 – 0.6

• 10 – 0.6

• 11 – 1.7

• 12 – 10.9

• 13 – 16.0

• 14 – 21.1

• 15 – 22.9

• 16 – 20.0

• 17 – 5.7
(numbers may not add up to 100% due to rounding)

I don’t know about you but 8 year olds looking at pornography makes me sick to my stomach! Studies like this let me know that I can’t wait till pre pubescent years to be protective of my sons eyes. It starts now! Our culture is obsessed with sex. It’s everywhere you look!

~Billboards down the highway

~Magazine covers and articles

~Poster/Ads at the Mall (think 8ft half naked lingerie models!)

~Movies

~TV shows

~The average woman walking down the street

So how do you safeguard your children? I am writing primarily from the perspective of boys since that’s what I have but much can be applies to girls as well.

1. Love your husband/wife

Give your child a model of Christ’s love through your love for your spouse. You made a covenant and young boys are watching how dad treats mom. They will notice if he gives lip service but then he himself retreats to a dark addiction. Boys are also watching mom honor or dishonor dad. Is she sweet, loving and nice to him like she is to her friends?

2. Teach truth from God’s word

Colossians 3:2-5 If then you have been raised with Christ, seek the things that are above, where Christ is, seated at the right hand of God. Set your minds on things that are above, not on things that are on earth. For you have died, and your life is hidden with Christ in God. When Christ who is your life appears, then you also will appear with him in glory. Put to death therefore what is earthly in you: sexual immorality, impurity, passion, evil desire, and covetousness, which is idolatry. 

Philippians 4:8 Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things.

2 Timothy 2:22 So flee youthful passions and pursue righteousness, faith, love, and peace, along with those who call on the Lord from a pure heart.

Gal.5:16-24, Rom.13:14, Titus 2:11-13, John 8:31-32 and James 4:7-10 

We need to teach our children that sexuality and life aren’t isolated ideas. They go together. We have to put to death not just sexual immorality but all sins. They need to understand that while humans may see sin in degrees of ‘evil,’ God sees all sin the same. All sin goes against God’s Word just the same and it all leads to the same consequence, separation from God. Talk to your children early about waiting for God’s best. Pray with and without them for their future spouse and their personal protection against temptations.

3. Be mindful of where and with whom your child is spending their time

As iron sharpens iron bad company corrupts morals.

We as parents are given stewardship over our children. This covers every aspect of their lives. I can remember when I was growing up that I didn’t spend the night just anywhere or go over to just anyone’s house. I didn’t learn until I was an adult that my parents did that in order to protect me. Here are some questions to ask yourself before your child spends time with a friend or goes out in general.

~ Does that friend have an older brother?

~ Does that family share the same values, principles and faith?

~Is that movie/show/song appropriate?

~Just because they are related to you doesn’t give them a free pass to watch your child.

I encourage you to sit with your spouse and decide what questions you will to determine where and with whom your child will be spending their time. You want to be prepared before it happens and not say “yes” on a whim.

4. Guard media time

Handing a young pre-pubescent boy a smartphone without parameters is just asking for trouble. It doesn’t matter how ‘good’ your child is, temptation is now at his fingertips. This can be avoided, whether you are dealing with movies, TV shows, computers, or tablets. Some simple things that I know my parents did and others have done is no computer in child’s room period and no TV with cable access in child’s room. Put basic parental filters on all devices, have screens face the room, use TVs that lock at a certain time of night, and look up movies before you release them to a theater. Hollywood has done a great job of distorting and desensitizing us to sex and foul language. I can’t think of a reason that a student should see a movie with a sex scene in it. You may be very un-popular with your child but it isn’t our job to be their friend.

5. Be open to having conversations about sex and pornography. 

Pornography may not be their sin struggle but nevertheless you want to always be the first to talk to them about their sexuality. I know that as kids get older they may not talk to parents as much. Especially as a mom of boys many of these important conversations will likely take place with my husband. That’s fine and healthy. What I can do is pray now for those conversations that are 5-10 years out.

6. Pray for a godly mentor for your child 

There is no replacement for a parent’s role in a child’s development when it comes to a healthy biblical view of sex, however a wonderful supplement is a mentor. Some one who is younger than mom and dad {usually} and closer to the adolescent’s age {usually} with a little bit more life experience. I am already praying for the mentors my boys will have in high school/college.

I have seen first hand the benefit of having a mentor in a teen’s life. My husband has been that person many times. Young men ages 15-21 have come to him with questions and issues that either those boys haven’t shared with mom and dad or have only shared with them in part. Moms have also told me how thankful they are that my husband takes the time to meet with their son and point him to truth. My husband isn’t saying anything much different than that mom or dad but that’s just it, he isn’t mom or dad. He is someone closer in age {he is 27} to them so he seems more relevant.

The biggest help for parents is devotion to prayer, open communication with your child, and community. We can’t keep our child from being tempted, but we can raise them in truth and lean on the promise that God’s word will not return void. We need other parents, those who are right there in the trenches with us, and those who have been there. done that, and lived to tell about it.

Jessica is a stay-at-home-mom to almost 3 boys, David age 3, Elliot age 2, and Micah due in early March 2013. She has been married to her highs school sweetheart Robert for almost 5 years. Jessica blogs over at The Faith-Filled Home where she talks about her faith, keeping her home, and life in general. In her “free” time she enjoys crafting, cooking, Pinterest-surfing, playing with her sons and dating her husband. Follow Jessica Facebook, Twitter, or Pinterest! 

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